I don't want to go into much detail, in order to avoid causing a ruckus, but it is sad how you can meet someone, even someone younger than you, and think that they are mature ('on your level' so to speak) and then find out that they are less mature than people you knew in high school.
Imagine my suprise and happiness last Sunday when Todd informed me that a photo of mine had been chosen for Artistic Shot of the Day on Textamerica. This is the way this works: if the person who choses the Shot of the Day sees your post, and is moved by it, and finds it worthy, they will post it as the Artistic Shot of the Day, and leave a comment on your moblog to let you know that you've been chosen. Another way you might be picked is by submitting a post you feel qualifies to the Considerations moblog. Then, it will be reviewed, and at that point if it passes muster, will be posted.
Well, my photo was chosen without my knowledge, and I was very pleased. I don't usually submit photos to the Considerations moblog, because frankly, I work full time and although I love photography , it is just a hobby for me now and I don't have time to shop my work around. I'm not looking for freelance work, or to win any contests. The award was an honor, and I appreciate it immensely, but the bottom line is: I didn't go looking for it.
Afterwards, someone whom I thought was a friend, posted a positive comment on my moblog (see original post here). I thought nothing of it, until I visited the Shot of the Day moblog, and in looking at the photo that was chosen the day after mine, came across the following post from the same person who had posted the positive comment on my moblog: (UPDATE: the post has since been deleted...thanks Janet!) but basically what it said was "I've submitted SIX of my pictures to Considerations, and none of them have been chosen. No offense to Gina but, I'm suprised you picked her photo over mine...*snip continuing paragraph of immature, shallow carping about how much more talented she is than me*.
Well, pardon me, but I *WAS* offended. And anyone who claims to possess 'old-fashioned manners' as she does should know that ANYTHING uttered after the phrase "No offense, but..." is better left unsaid, and is absolutely intended to offend someone!! If you feel the need to say "no offense, but..." before a sentence, then whatever you're about to say should be kept to yourself. You *know* it is going to hurt someone, otherwise you wouldn't be qualifying it with "no offense, but..."
I found that entire comment she posted to be completely inappropriate, petty, shallow, and reaking of immaturity. It was basically serious sour grapes & jealousy, masquerading as righteous indignation. Not to mention the fact that there are a few things she should have considered before her rant:
1. It's called Artistic Shot of the DAY. I was chosen for ONE DAY. 24 hours! My being chosen on Sunday does not take the chance away from anyone else. Someone is chosen for every single day. All you have to do is wait until the next day for a brand new chance.
2. I did not pursue this. I was chosen on merit, without my knowledge. Someone obviously thinks I'm worthy of it, or else I wouldn't have been chosen. Period.
3. Just because she's bitter that SHE hasn't been chosen YET (yes, I said yet because every day is a new chance!!) there is no reason for her to tear my work down. She could have effectively made her statement without mentioning me at all. She CHOSE to insult me in order to try to elevate herself. This is petty and never OK. There was no reason to bring me into her complaint whatsoever, but the fact that she proved herself a total hypocrite amuses me even more. To post a compliment on MY moblog about that picture, and then run off to another moblog and rip it apart only shows how two-faced this person really is. Why pose as my friend if you are envious of me? Sit there in front of your computer and shit-talk me all you want. But don't try to be my friend. I have enough real friends, I don't need fake 'schaudenfrade-embracing' people like you around me. (For those who don't know what schaudenfrade means, it describes the emotion of taking pleasure in watching someone else fail, especially someone you are envious of, or whom you feel 'deserves' to fail. Loosely translated, it would mean 'cold-blooded'.)
4. If you absolutely feel that you can't go on another day without complaining about my lack of talent to the powers that be...do so privately please. Email the webmaster of the site and tell them what an offense to your eyes my work is, and how little talent I have compared to you. They will still delete what you have to say, like they did with your petty comment, but at least you've gotten your point across, and gone about it in a way that doesn't humilate someone in a public forum. Unless that was your intention all along...?
I feel sorry for you.
I have blocked this person's IP address, so they can no longer post comments on my moblog, and removed them from my Favorites list. What a shame when you meet someone that you think is a decent human being, and they turn out to be a sad, envious, little girl.
~G
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